Humans have never been more dependent on the internet than ever before, with virtually everything being “digitized” even our love lives. This is in contrast to a few years back where you had to meet someone physically and asses them through first impressions, gradually knowing them yourself without having to worry about if they lied on their tinder profile or not.
In the modern era where internet dating is rampant, we get first impressions from a person’s profile. While things may seem to have been easier this just ironically complicates things. The consequences are so grave that you might find yourself waking up in the middle of the night and wondering why the person beside you in bed is so different from what you had imagined.
Difference With Time
Kids these days are in some ways unlucky because they are already so exposed than kids were in the past. They grow up even more insecure and less naive.
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Most don’t understand the joy of knowing someone intimately not based on first impressions they get off the internet but that sweet sensation you get in putting down your metaphorical shield and allowing someone to love you gradually like the slow process love should be much like evolution, maybe a little faster.
People look to social media to understand and learn how to love from celebrities or influencers. Their eyes and brains are filled with happy pictures of people who seem to be or are really in love. This is in contrast to before where you had to figure things out by checking what works for you and your partner.
This causes high expectations which in turn leaders to breakups and infidelities. With words like, “side chick”, “side piece” one can easily see how cheating is normalized. Little wonder why the infidelity rate is high, according to Hernom.com about 40% of unmarried relationships and 25% of marriages see at least one incident of infidelity. An issue of Marriage and Divorce journal also stated that 70% engage in some kind of affair sometime during their marital life.
Things may not be so gloomy after all. People have claimed to find the “right one” through the internet and that number seems to be growing continuously. There may still be hope after all as time gets by we can better navigate and develop a sort of “digital seventh sense” which may be able to digitally filter the persons we meet on the internet just from their online bio data. Thanks for reading my Ted talk.