Humans have never been more dependent on the internet than ever before, with virtually everything being “digitized” even our love lives. This is in contrast to a few years back where you had to meet someone physically and asses them through first impressions, gradually knowing them yourself without having to worry about if they lied on their tinder profile or not.
In the modern era where internet dating is rampant, we get first impressions from a person’s profile. While things may seem to have been easier this just ironically complicates things. The consequences are so grave that you might find yourself waking up in the middle of the night and wondering why the person beside you in bed is so different from what you had imagined.
Most don’t understand the joy of knowing someone intimately not based on first impressions they get off the internet but that sweet sensation you get in putting down your metaphorical shield and allowing someone to love you gradually like the slow process love should be much like evolution, maybe a little faster.
People look to social media to understand and learn how to love from celebrities or influencers. Their eyes and brains are filled with happy pictures of people who seem to be or are really in love. This is in contrast to before where you had to figure things out by checking what works for you and your partner.
This causes high expectations which in turn leaders to breakups and infidelities. With words like, “side chick”, “side piece” one can easily see how cheating is normalized. Little wonder why the infidelity rate is high, according to Hernom.com about 40% of unmarried relationships and 25% of marriages see at least one incident of infidelity. An issue of Marriage and Divorce journal also stated that 70% engage in some kind of affair sometime during their marital life.
Things may not be so gloomy after all. People have claimed to find the “right one” through the internet and that number seems to be growing continuously. There may still be hope after all as time gets by we can better navigate and develop a sort of “digital seventh sense” which may be able to digitally filter the persons we meet on the internet just from their online bio data. Thanks for reading my Ted talk.
Google online dictionary on the meaning of atheism
More often than not Atheism is often confused to be a religion when it is clearly not. With a deity also being defined as a supernatural diving being”. So an atheist can then be seen as one who rejects the belief in any supernatural diving being. The takeaway from this definition is the rejection of belief in a deity.
Atheists are always met with questions like, “What do you believe in then”? or “you must believe in something?” It must be emphasized that one who is uncertain about the existence of a deity is not an atheist, but rather an agnostic.
An atheist strongly belives in light of present evidence that there is no divine deity. An atheist doesn’t rule out the possibility of a creator, but for him/her, if such an entity were to exist it’s highly doubtful for him/her to be supernatural and care about who we have relations with or is even omniscient.
What atheism isn’t
Atheists are not “woke” individuals who are arrogant revel in the fact that a divine deity doesn’t exist. In fact, some atheists would like the idea, but know that thinking such is wishful.
Atheists don’t hate religious people contrary to what some believe. if you encounter such religion hating atheists chances are misguided extremists who present themselves in every faction of society.
Atheism doesn’t mean anti-theism! Anti-theism would be mean atheists are against deities or deity beliving institutions but that is not true. Atheism is simply the rejection of belief in divine deities.
Key differences between atheism and religion
Atheism is proof-based while theism is faith-based
This is the major difference between atheism and theist based institutions. The core of theism is faith and some religious people see every little thing that happens in their life as a sign from their God or gods.
There are multiple instances where religious people mention an encounter or witness the presence of God with ridiculous descriptions. Here are a few instances I saw on twitter. A religious man whose name I will not mention once burnt his food and believed the Lord was speaking to him, and also another twitter user once said she experienced God hugging her in the form of a light breeze which might have been the wind, but we may never know.
In the first instance, an atheist will most like accept the fact that he left his food longer on fire than he should have which meant burnt food and in the second instance, an atheist would have just closed the windows to prevent the wind from hugging her.
Atheists don’t have specific days they meet as most theists institutions do
Some misguided theists actually believe atheists have specific days they meet to worship, probably the devil and that atheism is synonymous with Occultism. This is very far from the truth and it might shock you to know how many people actually believe this. The following statement from a twitter user is a case in point:
Most atheists believe in concrete evidence and therefore believe in a methodical approach through theories and experiments to get their knowledge from or facts. If you live in a cave and still have no idea what the aforementioned methodical approach is it called science and probably called something cleverer in some dimensions or planets millions or billions of galaxies away.
Most atheists are interested in facts and they don’t find satisfaction in the answers that the universe has an author let alone that the author is a supernatural being. If in their search for truth they come across very convincing evidence that suggests that there is such a deity then they would gladly accept.
Theists have a religious figure, books while atheists don’t
While atheism is not synonymous with science most atheists are pointed out earlier believe in evidence and also the use of methodical approaches be science or philosophical reasoning to arrive at conclusions.
There is no one book or figure atheists draw their morality from. That doesn’t mean atheists can’t have role models or books they love.
Atheism is not religion just like not believing in Santa Claus doesn’t make you “A-Santaist”. Most if not all atheists are scientists and philosophers who are very eager to know the truth. They don’t claim to have all the answers.
Theists erroneously point out that if you don’t have all the answers why not latch onto something supernatural, but that would betray their inquisitive nature.
Some scientists and philosophers who can no longer bear the puzzle of the universe any longer often fall back to theism, but hopefully as technology evolves the why and how will be answered.
However way you want to interpret the meaning of atheism, you should do that knowing fully well that atheism is not a religion.
It’s the most important when choosing the website domain name. The domain name should be constructed around the meaning, name or phrase associated with the business.
Make the domain name brandable but not too long, easy to remember to avoid users typing in a typo while trying to access the website.
Summary of choosing a domain
Short domain name.
Easy to remember domain.
Unique and symbolizes the business.
If you are confused about what domain name to choose, there are a few domain name generators to try to give an idea.
I. Buying a domain and web hosting
Web hosting isn’t as complicated as often people think it is. Imagine a computer(webserver) in which you store your website information and files whenever a visitor calls upon a particular file via domain name (URL access) the webserver presents the file to the visitor that’s web hosting a nutshell.
If you can’t afford premium themes visit allwpworld or downloadthemes and download the premium themes for trial, not for commercial use.
I. Checklist for selecting a theme
Make sure the theme is lightweight (Nobody likes a show website).
Make sure it’s unique (You don’t your website looking like a replicate of another website).
Suited for the job (Choose a theme that best fit the business/ organization)
There are two ways to install themes in WordPress. If you download a theme from outside, the file would be in a zip file. Go to Appearance -> Themes and click on Add new.
Click on the Upload theme button and choose the zip file of the downloaded theme and install it.
Can install themes directly from the official WordPress directory. Go to Appearance -> Themes and click on Add new. Search for the name of the theme and preview it to get an insight into how the website looks before proceeding with the installation.
Step4: Customization of the website
Different themes affect the options that would be available in the customization tab. There are a few mandatory options that are always available for customization.
I. Site identity
Customization of the favicon of the website is important. It’s usually the icons that appear on the browsers tab and mobile search SERP. The favicon size is 144px by 144px Google recommended image size.
II. Homepage setting
Selecting a static page nor a post page could make or break your website. If it’s a blogged based website then the Post page is a better option.
If the website is to be designed for a business purpose the homepage setting should be Static page to be able to engage the audience quickly.
III. Color and Typography
In here lies the settings for the customization of the general colors that would be displayed throughout the website. Customizing the font, text size, and headers are also available. Free few the explore and get a feel for how the website could look like.
Step5: Adding essential plugins to power your website
Plugins simply help added more features to power and make websites easier to manage without having any knowledge of coding. Due to WordPress’s popularity, one could argue there is a plugin for every feature you plan on adding on to a website.
However, here are the essential plugins to add to your WordPress website:
Robin image optimize: optimize images on your website with loss of quality. It’s essential the images on a website are optimized to enhance user experience. It equally helps load web pages faster.
WebP Converter for Media: converting images to Webp helps load a website much faster for browsers that allows Webp images.
Contact 7 form: adding forms to your website is one of the best ways to allow the visitors of your website to reach out. With contact 7 form it makes the process seamless.
Wordfence security: Afraid of hackers? With this plugin, rest assured that your website security is secured and would be informed via email for any unauthorized activity on your website in real-time.
Yoast: an essential plugin for search engine optimization.
No need for any backup plugin when hosting with Hostlinger you are automatic backup up every three days with the single shared hosting.
Step 6: Basic pages to create
There are pages that all websites should have. These pages are:
Contact us – Where visitors can submit a form and get information that could help them contact you.
About us – Self-explanatory page that displays information about the aim, the purpose of the website.
Home – Usually called the landing page. It’s the first page a visitor would see when the website domain is accessed from a browser.
I. Creating a page
Click on Pages and Add New
Get familiarized with the interface.
II. Add Blog functionalities
If you are an influencer, content products or an inspiring blogger in Nigeria, it crucial that your website has a blog.
Blogs can be used to promote content, products, and brands. Managing a blog is straightforward, publish articles related to the content, products, and brand that you are trying to promote.
Creating a blog is similar like create a page.
Start by clicking on Pages and click on Add New.
Create a new page, name it BLOG.
Head over to Settings -> Reading and select the BLOG page as the Post page.
The success of every blog is based on consistent writing and publishing relative articles.
Yes! You have successfully learnt how to build a WordPress website.
You can now build a website from the ground up without needing to hire anyone.
With just ₦ 19,000 you can build a website, which takes 4 years before the next renewal which is quite cheap. Develop the skills you have acquired and you could be on a path to being a freelance web designer in Nigeria.
I did some surveys on twitter to understand how most Nigerians view happiness. I came to a few conclusions.
Nigerians mostly view happiness as social status, reaching a certain place in life, having a lot of money if not more, being able to afford anything and the list keeps ongoing.
A few questions people had difficulty or inconclusive answers to were as follows:
Can you be happy all the time?
Let’s say you attain the social status you craved, now what?
Can money buy happiness?
What does happiness mean to you?
Before we go into the details explaining what happiness is, let look at what isn’t happiness for a better understanding.
“Happiness is like butterfly; the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder”
Henry david thoreau
Happy isn’t a state of mind
It’s believed that every individual has a level of happiness. Psychologists refer to it as a set-point theory of happiness. It varies for each individual based on the environment that they grew up and the life experiences they have had so far in life.
Most at times when you receive a salary alert/twitter giveaway alert, news of your loved one putting to bed, gift and so on, you would feel a level of increase in your current state of happiness. After some period of time, it returns back to it’s set point.
Equally the same when you received news of losing a loved one, your level of happiness decreased, creating a sad feeling. After a certain period, it returns back to it’s set point.
“Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.”
Franklin D. Roosevelt
During my survey on twitter, most Nigerians if not all agreed that money is their source of happiness. A lot of Nigerian live below the poverty line which makes it hard to be happy.
For freelancers and entrepreneurs, the process of earning money gives them happiness rather than the money itself.
According to thriveglobal.com, researchers found that having more money directly increases life satisfaction. Nevertheless, after a certain period of time, the impact it has on happiness diminishes. And those with little money felt happier with increased earning.
Yet, money is needed to maintain the level of happiness(set point theory of happiness) or to keep it afloat.
What does happiness mean to you?
“Happiness is being contented with what you have, living in freedom and liberty, having a good family life, and good friends.”
In Nigeria, people live with lots of expectations, either from people or themselves. Life isn’t a destination but rather a day to day journey.
Carrying a lot in the heart weights down your happiness and can disrupt chemical imbalance which could lead to depression.
Happiness is the ability to overcome negative emotions, seeing positive in the worst scenario. The ability to connect and affect others positively. A sense of well-being, joy, or contentment.
Your happiness simply means how contented you are with your life, how you interact with your family and friends. How you allow your day to day affects you.
Possible solutions to fix warning: mysqli_real_connect(): (HY000/2002): Connection refused in /var/www/wordpress/wp-includes/wp-db.php
This error (mysqli_real_connect(): (HY000/2002) occurs often when updating major plugins on a WordPress website that uses WP CLI to operate on the site’s database. I did a lot of research on this error to get the best possible solutions just in case someone else comes across this same error.
Here are the three possible solutions:
Check to make sure the PHP version installed is up to PHP version 7.
Review the wp-config for miss-configuration.
Check the MySQL / database start, whether it’s running or not.
sudo service mysql status
If the MYSQL / MariaDB status shows ” Failed to start mysqld.service: Unit not found “, then you need to start up the database again.
systemctl start mariadb
After which, you restart the WordPress website on your browser, the sites should be back up.
Head over to your wp-config.php file.
Try using the local server rather than the “localhost”. That means changing “localhost” to “127.0.0.1” at wp-config.php
Refresh the WordPress website after restarting the database, the website should be back online
If you are using a VPS, chances are that you are running out of memory that’s why this error keeps up showing up.
You should optimize the database of the WordPress website on the VPS using MySQLtuner.
sudo apt-get install mysqltuner
Input the login credencials
Below is sample analytics.
Your MySQL analysis would be different.
[OK] Thread cache hit rate: 99% (539 created / 68K connections)
[OK] Table cache hit rate: 69% (274 open / 397 opened)
[OK] Open file limit used: 1% (59/4K)
[OK] Table locks acquired immediately: 100% (4M immediate / 4M locks)
-------- Performance schema -------------
[--] Performance schema is disabled.
-------- ThreadPool Metrics -------------
[--] ThreadPool stat is enabled.
[--] Thread Pool Size: 1 thread(s).
[--] Using default value is good enough for your version
-------- MyISAM Metrics -----------------
[!!] Key buffer used: 18.3% (3M used / 16M cache)
[OK] Key buffer size / total MyISAM indexes: 16.0M/123.0K
[!!] Read Key buffer hit rate: 90.0% (20 cached / 2 reads)
-------- AriaDB Metrics -----------------
[--] AriaDB is enabled.
[OK] Aria pagecache size / total Aria indexes: 128.0M/1B
[!!] Aria pagecache hit rate: 86.2% (982K cached / 135K reads)
-------- InnoDB Metrics ------------------
[--] InnoDB is enabled.
[OK] InnoDB buffer pool / data size: 128.0M/53.7M
[!!] InnoDB buffer pool <= 1G and innodb_buffer_pool_instances(!=1).
[--] InnoDB Buffer Pool Chunk Size not used or defined in your version
[OK] InnoDB Read buffer efficiency: 100.00%
(220631287 hits/ 220633521 total)
[!!] InnoDB Write Log efficiency: 71.98% (1777130 hits/ 2468813 total)
[OK] InnoDB log waits: 0.00% (0 waits / 691683 writes)
-------- TokuDB Metrics ----------------
[--] TokuDB is disabled.
-------- Galera Metrics ---------------
[--] Galera is disabled.
-------- Replication Metrics ----------
[--] Galera Synchronous replication: NO
[--] No replication slave(s) for this server.
[--] This is a standalone server.
-------- Recommendations -------------
Configure your accounts with ip or subnets only,
then update your configuration with skip-name-resolve=1
When making adjustments,
make tmp_table_size/max_heap_table_size equal
Reduce your SELECT DISTINCT queries which have no LIMIT clause
Variables to adjust:
query_cache_size (> 16M)
tmp_table_size (> 16M)
max_heap_table_size (> 16M)
From the MySQLtuner analysis, you would need to adjust the MySQL config file(https://naijatochinco.site/etc/mysql/my.cnf) according to the recommendation provided by MySQL tuner.
Restart MySQL server after you have made the necessary changes to MySQL config file
systemctl restart mariadb
Hopefully, these solutions are able to provide help and insight to anyone having a similar problem.
Feminism/feminists are two of the most commonly used word in Nigeria’s social media platforms since 2010 according to Google trends. Most people have few to little understanding of what feminism actually means due to how frequently it’s often misused in Nigeria.
Some Nigerians view it as a stand against men due to how often the words are associate with “hate men” analogy. Some Nigerians criticize feminism/ feminist from a religious standpoint. Does beg the question of what is feminism actually?
What does feminism mean to you?
Feminism can be defined in simple terms as the fight for all people equality not just “women”. People should not be excluded based on their sex, race, tribe, religion, social standing, and sexual preference. Feminism is more than just gender equality.
Often people argue that male and female nudity isn’t the same. In truth, yes they are not the same, women have been covering their bodies in all religions and traditions over the years.
If women began to cover their eyes, after a long period of time, covering eyes would be the same as covering boobs. Her body, her choice!
The notion of feminism is against tradition/ religion?
Feminism isn’t against tradition nor religion. If the tradition in question is against gender equality then such tradition should be changed or scraped away because the world has moved passed those archaic ways.
Feminism is all about togetherness, peace, and one love. The notion that feminism is against religion is guff.
Being an entrepreneur isn’t for everyone, neither is being an employee. In Nigeria, people often argue which is better, an employee’s life, or an entrepreneur’s life. Entrepreneurs are seen as hustlers, free, risk-takers that have control over how much they earn and how their time is being spent.
They can engage in multiple businesses that act as the source of income increasing they are potential earning drastically. With experience and knowledge, they acquire developing businesses, achieving success which is their ultimate goal.
In Nigeria’s reality, many entrepreneurs fail. There are lots of factors to consider as an entrepreneur in Nigeria. An entrepreneur in Nigeria doesn’t have a guaranteed salary or work security an employee has.
Most times, entrepreneurs don’t have a team of colleagues to fail back on or depend on, an alert to receive at the end of the month, allowance, office car, and career progression due to years of service.
The process of registering a company in Nigeria, the tax return, the failure, and business mishaps. The life of an entrepreneur isn’t as shinny as most motivational speakers in Nigeria make it seem.
There is a popular Igbo saying “If you tell a poor man what it takes to be rich, he would reply let him remain poor”. With proper planning and madcap ideas led by confidence and ambition, being a successful entrepreneur in Nigeria can be achieved.
With technology moving at a rapid pace, more opportunities are been presented to succeed in Nigeria as an entrepreneur.
Merits of being an entrepreneur in Nigeria
No salary cap
That’s what’s good about being an entrepreneur, your earning don’t have any salary cap. From my own personal perspective, I know a friend that’s a graphics designer that works as a freelancer and walks home with ₦10,000 on a bad day and ₦17,000 on a good day, do the maths with a calculator and it’s jaw-dropping.
Part of the perks of being an entrepreneur is the flexibility of your time. When the business grows, you can equally employ people, sit back and observe.
You are the boss. Free to make professional decisions, direct employees on how they can help the company achieve more.
Demerits of being an entrepreneur in Nigeria
Being the boss is cool and all but with no guaranteed income, no colleague for support. It can quickly turn into a lonely and stressful place. Mishaps are banned to happen and not all entrepreneurs have a business safety plan.
Most businesses in Nigeria need a lot of hours at the being of the startup, due to different factors. If you are starting a business that has lots of competitors, lots of working time is the only way of building a solid reputation and customer base.
The best factor in Nigeria for entrepreneurs. The government doesn’t provide or aid small businesses trying to create empowerment. No available loan that’s below 10% interest for small business in Nigeria.
The risk of debt, the risk of failing, the risk of others witnessing your failure and risk of mental health, being an entrepreneur in Nigeria isn’t for the light-hearted.
Merits of being an employee in Nigeria
It comes always at the exact time, it’s needed the most. It’s financial security for most Nigerians. It even gets better when you are working for the state or federal government due to petition.
Most Nigerian banks are more engage to award loans to salary earners than entrepreneurs to the financial security monthly salary comes within Nigeria.
You are often assigned a particular role to perform a specific task. No need to be considered with mother tasks that weren’t assigned to you. You would receive your salary for completing only the task given to you.
Over years of services to a particular company, promotions are banned to occur, so does salary increase. It’s a system that awards employees for their years of services.
Demerits of being an employee in Nigeria
Limited income puts a constraint on your life. Bonuses and allowances can only do some much but even those are capped.
Over the years of working as an employee, you are banned to lose your passion, the spark in you. It naturally occurs that you won’t know at what point you lost your passion.
Once every year, we get the news of an outrageous number of people in Nigeria that lost their jobs at the banks. Jobs are never guaranteed for life and employers can often sack employees without giving a solid reason.
Nigeria is a country where nothing is a given, not your job, not your housing, not your welfare absolutely nothing.
If you are an entrepreneur, have a safety plan in place for an emergency and invest wisely, if you are an employee try to open a small business, look for means to earn additional income each money.
It’s no secret that online shopping has started gaining ground in Nigeria, with people selling different products like sneakers, clothes, shoes, and more on different online platforms such as Instagram, WhatsApp, Twitter, Jumia and the list goes on.
Most of these products that are being showcased on these platforms are often fashion products. But the biggest problem with buying online from unverified sources is being a victim of online fraud which is quite common.
We did some research and compiled a list of the best online stores specifically for shopping for clothes in Nigeria, where you can shop with an assurance of quality and good customer services.
Note: We are not affiliated with these websites, this list was compiled from “Best of” lists published by the most trusted sources, reviews and google recommendation.
Obeezi has men’s clothes as well as women’s clothes in their online shopping platforms. They have different fashion accessories ranging from wristwatches to men’s purses. It’s really a shop for all. Available as a mobile app for ios and android.
Price Range: Medium-High. Latest Trends: Medium. Website Usability: Simple, clean and clear website layout. The best thing about the site: Plenty of offers and sales on the website.
Find Original Clothes with going out of your comfort zone.
Shopping online can help you find quality and different clothes than in the market. What to know about different online shopping sites and the kinds of clothes they sell?
We’ve all been there. You spend time at the local market looking for original right cloth for an event, only to wear that dress out to the venue and wind up matching with your someone else, then calling “sis”.
Having the same clothes as a lot of other people is bound to happen, as most sellers in the market have the stock, and import similar products, if not exact, products. A great way to avoid buying similar stuff to everyone and finding different items is by shopping online.
Next time you feel you need some new clothes, shoes or bag, just think of the style you’re looking for. There is a site with the relevant clothes is out there!
Class and High-Quality
For classic and elegant clothes, there are sites like Chincotonaija and the5kShop. Chincotonaija is a new online, which ships directly from China, they sell designer clothes, shoes, bags, and accessories. It has all sorts of different styles of clothes on the site from Chinese designers. From classic purses and retro sneakers to designer dresses, although it’s mostly for wholesale with a few for retail purchase.
The5kShop is the true embodiment of online shopping in Nigeria, just as the name suggests everything in the store is no more than ₦5,000. They have different clothes from different designers but from Nigeria and overseas. They sell most female dresses with elegant style and design.
Obeezi is filled with lots of discounts offer for their products. Their wristwatches and men’s shoes can’t be matched in quality by any other store.